Piñata by Pages Matam

“To the man on the bus I overheard in conversation tell a woman, presumably a friend, you are too ugly to be raped.”



The Shaming of the Breasts

They come in all sizes, shapes, and colors. Some are au natural others have been improved upon but every woman has them. The librarian at your child’s school has two of them! Your grandmother has two of them! And when your daughter gets to be the right age, she’ll get them too. So, if they’re so common, so plentiful, why do we spend so much energy shaming the breasts?

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Vanessa Williams: Hiding My Childhood Molestation Affected My Adult Life

Even though I know it can happen to anyone, I’m always amazed when a celebrity comes forward with a story of sexual abuse. So many of us hide the things that have happened to us so let’s take a moment to appreciate the strength and will it must’ve taken for the lovely and talented Vanessa Williams to open up about her experience.

The Chicago Defender

22nd Annual Oscar Hammerstein Award GalaVanessa Williams is opening about how being molested at the age of 10 had rippling effects throughout her life.

The ?Ugly Betty? star revealed on Sunday?s episode of ?Oprah?s Master Class? that the incident happened while she was on a vacation with a family friend to California.

During the trip, Vanessa met an 18-year-old girl that she looked up to because she ?was one of the cool girls.? The unidentified woman encouraged her to try different things that were inappropriate for childre, like smoking.

Unfortunately, facing peer pressure to try cigarettes was not where the illicit behavior ended with the teen. ?One night she came into the room where my friend and I were sleeping, and she told me to lie down on the floor,? Vanessa recounted, stating that the girl performed oral sex on her. ?At 10 years old, I had no idea what it was, but I knew…

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Marriage: Friend or Foe?


Here’s a bit of my personal truth. I don’t want to get married. I never have. I didn’t daydream about what it would be like as a little girl. I didn’t plot and plan to acquire that elusive diamond ring as a young adult. I was busy thinking about other things. I still am but every so often I’ll turn on the news to some politician saying stupid things or I’ll have a conversation with a friend that gets me thinking. Marriage. Is it a friend or foe to modern-day women?

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Farewell to Maya Angelou


The prolific writer Maya Angelou passed away this week at the age of eighty-six. If you’ve had the privilege of reading any of her novels or poems then you know that she had a courageously open spirit. It’s rare to find individuals who share their lives, mistakes and all, without a hint of vanity. Below you’ll find my personal recollections of Maya Angelou.

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